A possible cure for stupidity
There are many reasons for an adult to be stupid. This article will focus on a particular type of person who is considered stupid due to their irresponsibility, forgetfulness, incompetence, and anything similar to what they can identify as behaving like a five-year-old.
The question I have been pondering is why a reasonably intelligent adult, that is, someone capable of supporting himself or herself and living independently, cannot be trusted to do the simplest things and forgets little instructions or details, or is he consistently clumsy.
How can someone be able to work on a computer, perform technical tasks, have a reasonably intelligent conversation, and yet repeatedly forget simple tasks or details in instructions?
Of course, this is not a universal explanation that covers all humans who are this way, but I think it does cover many. Only you can determine if you, or someone you know, would fit into this classification and then with what we will say here, you can help improve their apparent intelligence.
Yes, I am quite rude and blunt in my use of the word “stupid”, but I am just verbalizing what everyone else is thinking.
If you’ve ever owned or operated a retail store, or been a customer, you know what I’m talking about when you have the frustrating luck of dealing with someone who is so stupid that your mouth falls open in disbelief.
And now that we’ve established the type of person we’re discussing, let’s move on to explaining why they can be so stupid sometimes. Use this information as a guide to test my theory with each of these people you interact with, or to review your own actions if you accept that you are, or are viewed, as stupid.
When this person is told to do the simplest things, for example told to tie his shoelaces, he tends to get angry. They feel insulted because, as adults, they are told the simplest things that they should be able to do for themselves. It could be that you ask that person to run a simple errand for you, and after telling them three times, also write down the instructions, such as telling the laundry to use unscented soap instead of the standard strong perfume.
They get angry and feel insulted, undermined and basically defend themselves by saying that they are not children and that they can remember that without needing a note.
The end result, as many of you have experienced, is highly scented cloths. “I told you three times, I wrote it on the paper with the cloths, how could you go wrong with such a simple thing!”
My discovery is; because they felt so insulted and felt that you treat them like a five-year-old idiot, that their mind turns off and they don’t listen to instructions or they forget in rebellion. Therefore, they reinforce your opinion about your stupidity.
When you tell a five-year-old to take something and he refuses, then you say; “I’m not going to let you have it.” And, of course, the child immediately demands to have it.
When you tell one of these ‘adults’ to do something that he takes as an insulting instruction that implies that he is stupid, his mind rebels and says; “I do not want it”. referring to the instructions. And since they have rejected you as a child, it never comes to mind, and you know the results.
They are wrong, they look and they are indeed stupid, and they both know it. Their self-esteem falls to an even lower level and they maintain their reputation as stupid and irresponsible.
Now let’s work to find a solution.
Nobody but the person with the problem can do anything. The first step is for the stupid person to accept that they are indeed as stupid and childish as a five-year-old. By refusing to accept that this is their actual level of maturity with their rebellious nature to anything perceived as an insult, they will never be able to change. It is a rejection of reality instead of living in a self-lie that always makes things worse.
After this first step, the normal human reaction is that they will reject this obvious truth by listing all the things they can do well, thus trying to show that they are not so stupid.
A good deed does not eliminate a bad deed. Do not do this. Just accept the bad action without diverting your attention to a good one so that you can ignore the bad.
We return to the first step of total acceptance of immaturity and childlike nature regardless of physical age.
The proof is that you have a reputation for your consistent actions. So just accept it, you are stupid.
Next, you should refrain from responding verbally or internally mentally, and when you feel insulted, you should remind yourself that despite your desire or opinion that you are smart, the evidence of people’s opinion of you is more valid. If ten people think you are irresponsible, and you or maybe 2 people think you are cool, the majority vote is likely correct.
Remind yourself of this whenever you feel like you are being insulted, undermined, or ridiculed by being treated as an immature child.
This will naturally make you feel desperate, inferior, and will destroy any strands of self-worth you have and unleash an endless stream of self-loathing. Counter this with hope and joy knowing that if you finally accept the problem as it is, there is a clear and simple way to conquer this problem and transform your mind into a reasonably intelligent and responsible person.
And that’s all it takes. Acceptance of the problem, acceptance of the cause of the problem, and the willingness to stop acting like a child and refuse to accept that you are simply stupid. There is nothing wrong with that, because the cause of your stupidity is your refusal to be treated at the level at which you behave.
This will open your mind to accept every simple instruction as it is given because you will accept that you deserve to be treated that way as you forget the simplest things, and then you will probably do things right because you will be open minded and pay more attention. . Eventually, your reputation will change to a person who does what you are told flawlessly, and you will eventually be able to grow.