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My Husband Left Me But Says He Still Wants Us To Be Friends: Tips And Tricks That Can Help

I recently received an email from a wife who told me that she felt very betrayed and confused that her husband had recently left her and the house to “have time to think about the relationship” but insisted that the two of them could still be friends.

The wife was heartbroken and confused. She wanted to keep her husband in her life and she wanted to save her marriage. But she felt that the offer to be friends was just some sort of consolation prize. She knew it was going to be very difficult for her to have a friendship type relationship when she wanted it to be so much more. But, she wondered if, at this point, she should take what she could to make sure he stayed in her life. She wasn’t sure how she should act around him or how she should play this out. She wanted my advice on how to move forward. I will tell you what I told him in the next article.

Can you still be friends after your husband leaves you?: It’s probably unrealistic to think that the two of you can still be true friends. After all, they have shared much more than a friendship and there is really no way to pretend otherwise. Also, it can be quite difficult and uncomfortable to see her husband in another context. He will often be unsure how to act or what to say.

The real key to making this work is to define the relationship without limiting it so no one person has to guess. This is often more difficult in real life than it seems on paper. You don’t want to make demands or show that this is so difficult for you that he just wants to back off and avoid contact with you. But you also don’t want to leave yourself vulnerable or taken advantage of.

That said, it’s important that you have the ability to keep in touch and stay in touch in a way that helps keep the relationship going rather than end it. Because, if you want him to finally come back, you will have a much better chance of this happening if he can think about you and feel positive things. You don’t want his departure to be the last thing he remembers.

Staying friends can allow you to stay in her thoughts and in her life. But, you should always move your gaze to where you really want it to go. You must not act in such a way that it is impossible to maintain and you must not be unfaithful to yourself. And you must not allow this friendship to hurt you emotionally. Not everyone can play this role. Sometimes the longing is evident in their eyes and the true motivation is starkly apparent for all to see.

How being friends with your estranged husband can lead to something more lasting: As I mentioned, it is very important that you strike a balance between this being a healthy relationship and what you want to see happen in the long run. Although it may not seem like everything right now, it is an advantage to have access and a somewhat captive audience. I talk to many women whose husbands won’t even allow a phone call or a letter once he’s gone. It may not feel like things could get any worse, but believe me when I tell you they can.

And frankly, you can also use this time apart for your own benefit. He’s probably watching what you’re doing. He’s probably watching you and listening to the proverbial door to know what’s going on. Show someone who is able to cope quite well, not someone who is needy or undesirable. Now is your time to shine. And frankly, you probably now have time to do all those things you were putting off or delaying because of them.

For both your sake and his, you should introduce someone who is happy, capable, optimistic, and positive. People like this naturally attract others like moths to a flame. I know it’s so easy and so tempting to hold on or overdo it during times when you’re together and nurturing your “friendship” relationship, but firmly resist this. Don’t be available every time he wants to meet. It alludes to the fact that you too are taking advantage of your freedom. The great advantage of this situation is that you can only allow them to see what you want them to see.

They are no longer together 24/7, so they have much more control over the image they are projecting. Don’t put all your focus on this relationship and where it’s going. I know it’s a lot to ask, but doing this is often so obvious to your husband that it will only lose you ground in the long run. Really and genuinely take this opportunity to focus on yourself and your own needs and wants. Yes, you will agree to be friends but you will not allow them to take advantage of you and you have other friends.

It’s perfectly fine and even recommended to try to maintain a positive relationship with your husband. And, without the pressure of living together while trying to save the marriage, they often have more flexibility and can enjoy each other without being together 24/7. This can only bring short-term improvements to your relationship if you play it right. (If you’re struggling with this, take some time to remove yourself from the situation until you can return to it in a healthier way.)

Therefore, I advised the wife to agree to remain friends, but not to hang up on the husbands from every phone call and invitation. She knew he would be watching and I wanted to make sure that when she did, she saw a woman who was embracing life, she was so adorable and someone else was likely to pick her up if she kept playing these games.

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