Male chastity marriage: mistakes and myths
I’m here to help you get your wife or lover to give you what you want: serious male chastity.
And in fact I take it very seriously, because I know, and you will come to discover for yourself how fabulous male chastity is. But getting to that point probably means letting go of everything you’ve ever heard, thought, or believed about.
That focus on realism and critical thinking is at the core of what I do in my articles and blog, and in my own life with John.
So a big mistake is simply this: male chastity is a surefire way to fix any relationship, a surefire strategy to turn your loved one back into the passionate, lustful, and utterly devoted creature that he once was. It is a common myth that you will see perpetuated on forums and blogs, as well as by people trying to sell you an expensive chastity device.
And it is a myth.
Because male chastity is not a panacea and can actually do more harm than good.
Let’s back up a bit. In most cases, it is the man who leads the lifestyle of male chastity; you bump into him in some way, usually because he is always aroused by the idea of controlling or even denying his climaxes, and he thinks it would be fun to try.
So he musters up the courage to talk to his wife or girlfriend and she goes off looking for information; or you, perhaps, point him in the right direction. In my experience, it is almost never the other way around.
Despite what forum posts and blogs say, women almost never turn to their men and say “I want to lock you up for X, Y and Z”.
It happens I’m sure, but not often (so if it has happened to you, I hope you realize how lucky you are).
And the reason why man does this?
Well yes, it is true that you have this fantasy … but it goes beyond that, and the more you learn and think about male chastity, the more true this becomes. Because he also loves his partner … and, like him, you want to regain the passion and lust of how it used to be when you were together for the first time.
In fact, it is much more than this. The desire for male chastity burns hot and bright, as you’ll see when I share some personal stories about John and me, but more on that in future articles.
Regardless, in loving but stale relationships, I’d say yes, male chastity is definitely worth a try, because, and here’s the thing, their underlying relationship is strong and solid. This is assuming that you or your partner do not have strong moral, ethical, religious, or other personal reasons for not even considering it (sadly, that happens too).
You see, male chastity doesn’t replace parts of your relationship – it enhances the whole and helps you grow it. And it’s true, one of the benefits is that it increases and improves your love life.
No doubt about that.
But what it won’t do is resurrect something that is already dead.
Male chastity is so powerful because, primarily, it is about increasing and enhancing the physical and emotional intimacy you experience with each other.
This is why men become more loving and caring, not because everyone wants to be “slaves” or “sissies” (some do, most don’t … and most women certainly don’t find attractiveness in a man). They become more attentive because you share more intimacy … and close and loving people like to do nice things for each other.
Clearly, if there is no intimacy between you now because you don’t want it or don’t like it, then trying to “force” it with male chastity will be a disaster for both of you. Because if your relationship is bad and you can’t bear to see each other, or your wife’s skin bristles when you touch her … chances are, male chastity just makes things worse for you. both of them.
If this is your relationship, and you really need to ask yourself some tough questions and answer them with brutal honesty, you really need to start fixing your relationship before anything else.
And if it can’t be fixed (and that’s always possible, and in the long run, if that’s true, the sooner you find out the better), then you might want to think about ending it.
Strong words, I know.
But true, for all that.