Parenting Skills Today
There are currently no courses that teach parenting skills. Parenting requires a great deal of skills. No parent is gifted with all parenting skills all the time. Instead, parenting skills are learned as time goes on. Depending on the behavior and age of your child, there will be times when some skills are easily applied. There are certain parenting skills that are important in promoting effective discipline and raising children better.
Set a positive example
Modeling appropriate behaviors is a very important parenting skill. Children learn from what they see and hear. Parents who are used to “doing what I say, not what you do”, for the most part, find this way very ineffective. Parents with the habit of yelling when they are hungry raise their children who yell when they are angry. However, a parent who models themselves on how to handle anger by taking a break will raise their children with good anger management mechanisms.
Manage stress effectively
Stressed parents are likely to be inconsistent with discipline or yell. They are more likely to use punishment rather than discipline. Parents must learn to manage stress through self-care and the support of family and friends.
Recognize security issues
Parents must be able to smell danger from a mile away. They must recognize a predatory child when they see one. They should allow natural consequences only if it is safe to do so and should teach children healthy decision-making skills.
Set appropriate limits
Parents should set appropriate limits for their children, even if the children protest. Setting appropriate limits means that parents use developmental discipline strategies and ensure that their children have clear rules. Effective parents can tolerate their children getting angry with them and focus on what is best for their children.
Praise the children for their efforts
Praise the children for the amount of energy they put out. This teaches them to be persistent and they learn that improvement is possible. If a child’s perseverance is based on rewards like praise, when it stops, the effort stops.
Enforce consequences consistently
Consistency in parenting is a crucial parenting skill. If a child receives negative consequences only half the time, the behavior will most likely not stop. Parents should not only threaten consequences, but continue to impose them throughout the process.
Choose your battles wisely
Parents need to be able to recognize whether a battle is worth fighting. Sometimes some behaviors are not worth fighting if they can lead to a power struggle.
Provide positive care
Sometimes it can be difficult to find the energy and time to consider each child individually, especially when raising many children. Finding time each day to pay positive attention makes all other discipline strategies more effective.
Set a clear expectation
Make children understand what is expected of them. Parents should tell their children what is expected of them in a way that they can understand. An effective parent doesn’t just tell his 10-year-old son to make his bed. Instead, it describes it and shows what a made bed looks like.
Talk to your spouse or partner
When raising children with your husband, wife, or committed partners, learn to be on the same page. Discuss your desire to improve your parenting skills with people close to you. They offer you support if they know your goals.