The ecstasy of male chastity and orgasm control
One of the main reasons for male chastity is the control of the male orgasm. I think it’s no exaggeration to say that a man’s desire for a woman to control her orgasm forms the root of the entire lifestyle of male chastity.
It is true that there is a small minority of women who initiated male chastity, but in my experience the whole phenomenon is run almost exclusively by men at first.
So why do men enjoy having their orgasms controlled and, as is often the case, denied, sometimes for long periods of time?
There are a few different reasons, but the main two I hear are:
1. Pure physical pleasure
2. Desire to surrender control
The first of these is harder to understand if you’re not a man, I think.
Suffice it to say that men who are on the threshold of orgasm for long periods of time (and this is exactly what happens even after a relatively short period of teasing and denial) are as close to multiple orgasms as they will get. we have. girls get hurt so often.
Male orgasm control is not so much having his pleasure denied how is power savor it’s. And who are we girls to argue?
The second point, a yearning to relinquish control, is mostly psychological and is probably one of those things you can only understand if you feel it, and if you feel it you don’t need me to explain it to you. From what John tells me, I have a feeling it’s a bit like I can feel myself in the arms of a strong man…there’s an emotion of danger because I know how strong he is and how powerless I am…but also feel safe.
How to control a man’s orgasms
First, you will almost certainly have to lock him in some kind of chastity device if you want to be sure that you are in control of the male orgasm. Although, having said that, for many the “honor system” also works well. Much of it depends on exactly why they want to adopt the male chastity lifestyle.
I have noticed that if they are more into male submission, physically locking them up is a big part of them; but if they are mainly in control of the male orgasm per seSo while a chastity belt or device is the icing on the cake, it’s not strictly necessary all the time. But does it add to the pleasure, so give it a try!
Second, you’ll need to be able to read her body and know when she’s about to orgasm. Y make sure you know the rules. I know it can be painful and it may seem contrary to the spirit of the male chastity lifestyle, but you have to take some responsibility. No matter how willing you are at first, in the heat of the moment, you just aren’t thinking.
For example, you could tell him that he has to tell you when he feels like he can’t hold back anymore; or you could go further and tell her that she should not only tell you, but what’s more stop what you are doing.
There are also a couple of things you can do physically to control the male orgasm.
For example, you can push him or just stop what you’re doing.
This won’t always stop your orgasm if you leave things a little late, but Will give her the dreaded “ruined orgasm”. The effect of this is hard to describe, and while it may bother you a little that he has had an orgasm, take comfort in the fact that it has been very unsatisfying for him and he may feel deflated, but it won’t feel like he has had an orgasm.
This is more male orgasm damage limitation than male orgasm control.
Another thing you can do is to firmly squeeze your penis at the base. This will often stop your orgasm dead in its tracks, but it can be difficult to do. It all depends on what you’re doing and what position you’re in, to be blunt.
Finally, a friend of mine pokes her husband’s penis hard at the tip with her finger. She apparently doesn’t hurt much, but it’s quite a shock to him at the time, and she does his job extremely well. I’ve never tried it, so I can’t speak from personal experience.
What if he reaches orgasm when you’ve told him he can’t?
Well, that’s up to you and it will largely depend on what kind of inclination you have for your own version of the male chastity lifestyle.
Assuming, as I do, that you don’t like extreme spanking and other corporal punishment meted out by women and dominatrixes in female-led relationships, I’ve always found that a longer period of denial in the next round works wonders. It is important to realize that you BOTH have a responsibility to stop before it is too late!
On the other hand, sometimes it’s just too funny for words and you laugh about it (while making sure to be a lot more careful next time!).
Just remember that it’s kind of fun and you’re both supposed to enjoy things.
Getting too serious can ruin it for a long time, believe me. Not only that but the wants male orgasm control, so even if he’s a little cheeky at the time, he’ll generally be grateful if you’re strong and help him stay in control.