you get what you want

The way we know is fateful… Human beings and organizations move in the direction of what they inquire.

–Jane Magruder Watkins Appreciative inquiry, theory and practice

Tell me a story about the best Christmas, the best Hanukkah, the best Christmas season you’ve ever had. What made it so wonderful? Who was involved? What happened? What is it about that era that makes you remember it so vividly? What do you value about what you did? How did you contribute to its special qualities? Write the story if you want.

As you think about this special time of year, what do you think is at the heart of the holiday you celebrate? Can you look for that this season?

You will find what you are looking for. For example:

• When your loved one makes a silly mistake, can you see their positive intent?
• When mom comments on her teen’s appearance, can she look for what she appreciates about her?
• When you say something you regret, will you focus on the problem, or will you see the hope, kindness, and optimism that prompted your comment?

The art of Aikido says that the attack is a gift of energy. Here comes a troublesome person, an unexpected event, a perceived harm. It is not wanted. Aikido says that I can look for the gift. And in my experience, when I look for the gift, I find it. I also find power to effect change, both in myself and in my environment. The change, in fact, has already begun with the change in my approach.

We can look for what we appreciate in life or we can focus on problems. Appreciative Inquiry (AI) it is a philosophy and process that builds on strength, fosters optimism and anticipates a positive future. As you direct your ki toward what you want, the problem becomes fuel for designing the solution.

I wish you peace, joy, and appreciation this season and always!