4 secrets to reading female body language

I read something a while back about a social psychology study that found that men tend to pursue women who have no real interest in them, while remaining completely oblivious to women who are trying to get their attention. Among the women, reactions to this news ranged from a complete lack of surprise to “I could have told you that.” So there it is, guys: scientific evidence that when it comes to reading women, we screw up. That is why I have taken the time to do some research and prepare a small manual. A men’s guide to reading a woman’s body language. I hope she helps.

Position

You can tell a lot right away by how a woman sits or stands. If she leans towards a guy, she’s definitely into him. If she’s pulling away from him, it’s possible that she’s trying to keep her distance (bad), or she’s incredibly relaxed and comfortable with him (good). Arms crossed over her chest are almost never a good sign. The more her body is leaning towards you, the better. If she is sitting down, it is likely that she has her legs and knees bent towards the man she is interested in. She may not even realize she’s doing it, but it’s something to pay attention to.

gesture

In general, slow stroking gestures are good. They indicate that she is feeling loving and sensual. If he’s stroking his neck, so much the better! In fact, any movement that accentuates her neck is promising. A tilt of the head or a flick of the hair: the neck is a key erogenous zone for a woman, so if she presents it, she needs to pay attention. Playful gestures are also good. Twisting her hair, touching her necklace or her wine glass, these are indicators of a flirtatious mood.

eyes

This is a key point. She could be doing everything I’ve described above, but if she’s not looking at you, she’s not interested. If she’s flirting, she might (and probably will) look away from her. But at some point she’ll make meaningful eye contact with the guy she’s looking for. She has to do it at least a few times to make sure she’s paying attention. So if she’s not giving you a second look, you should move on.

It’s all in the subtleties.

I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but it’s the truth: You’re not going to learn to read a woman’s body language overnight. There are too many variables. If the woman seems nervous and plays with her jewelry a lot, it could mean that she is excited or eager to find an excuse to get out of there. The difference is in the little signs that are impossible to describe, but clear enough once you know what you’re looking for. So you might want to spend a little time as a field anthropologist, observing how women interact with men. In no time you’ll start picking up those finer points. Then you’ll be on your way to discovering the secrets of female body language!